With the new year approaching, this is normally the time I take to think about how the past year went and what I want to fix within myself and my surroundings to reach certain goals. I’ve decided on what I want my word of the year to be:
I need and deserve happiness. And even though I am happy with certain aspects of my life, there are several more that make me unhappy and that needs to change. I have been overwhelmed and stressed out for much of 2018 to the point that it has felt crippling. It has affected the organization of my home, my ability to build this blog to the level it should be, and my sanity. So things need to change around here for 2019 and I’ve already started working some of those things.
First on my agenda is to get my house organized. Now, I’m not talking perfection, because that will not happen overnight. I’m talking about a livable organized and to continue decluttering throughout the year. I started what I’m going to call winter cleaning. It’s the same as spring cleaning but in winter. I went through the kid’s stuff and am parting with clothes that no longer fit and toys that they no longer use (whether they like it or not!). I am going through all the things I have stored and I am parting with things I forgot I even had. I am in “clean out the house” mode because our stuff lately feels like it owns me and not the other way around. So it’s time to purge.
Once I have some of that under reasonable control, I know I will feel better about myself. Why? Because a cluttered house leads to a cluttered mind and my mind has just been all over the place lately. I want everything in my house to have a home. If it doesn’t have a home, I either need to make a home for it or find it a home somewhere else because it doesn’t belong in my house.
Secondly, I need to get my kids on a routine and set expectations for them. They have been doing whatever they want for a long time now. Ever since Maddie was born, the routine I had for Sebastian went out the window because I was adjusting to the baby. Well, the baby is no longer a baby and I need to get her on the same routine I had for Sebastian. That will take time because it’s multi-faceted. I am in the process of weaning her and moving her from our bed to hers. She’s not happy with that, so I’m having to deal with a lot of tantrums and a lot of sleep disruptions. She was so used to using me as a means to fall asleep that I’m having to teach her how to settle without nursing while at the same time trying to teach her that her bed is her space to be comfortable in. She’s a big snuggler. She loves to snuggle up to me and fall asleep on my arm and I just haven’t been able to find a way to get her to sleep without me.
I also need to find a way to get them to contribute to the home. It has been a struggle with Sebastian to get him to do things like pick up his toys. Yes, it’s really easy to say that we can take them away from him, but then where do we put them? How do we lock up the toys? He has so much (which is also why the major toy purge of 2018 is taking place) that we just don’t have a place to lock them up to and I just can’t keep with the arguing and screaming fits over his lack of picking up after himself, so somethings gotta give. I cannot and will not do it on my own so I need to make him understand that it is his job to do that without there being a constant struggle.
I think once I have the above things running the way they should, everything else should fall into place. I will start to feel like a better mom, I will start to feel like a better wife, I will have more time for myself because I am not constantly cleaning the house or after the kids. I will also be able to focus on my work and be able to grow and monetize the blog properly.
I know at this point this is a wish list of things I want to happen, but I am determined to make this happen, which is also why I am documenting it here. Because by putting all of this on here I feel that it will make me accountable to actually making this happen and I want to document my progress on the blog. I know I can’t be the only mom who struggles with these issues.
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What are your goals for 2019 and how will you make it happen for you?
Share with me in the comments what you will be working on this year and let’s help each other make it happen! Let’s take part in getting our lives organized together, help keep each other accountable and offer each other tips! Join me on project #OrganizedLife2019.